Thursday, August 23, 2012
Why is everybody against it? Actually I think they are afraid of it!
I understand that it is not comfortable, but if one believes he or she is in the right, then it is the right thing to do!
Are you content to live in a lie, in order to pacify and not rock the boat? If so, all I can say is too bad for you!
To me, that spells 'Gutless'. I am not talking about scenes in public like most morons like to exhibit!
I am talking about speaking with facts and a good mind.
I have let many get away with a lot of crap in my life, but they only get three passes and the third time is not a pass! The third time serves as the final warning and honorable stripes are removed.
The way I see it, the first time you screw up and it hurts me, it is understandable because you may have not known.
The second time you do something, it is still excusable because I may have not made myself clear the first time....
Now... The third time you do me wrong?
You Pay! Why? Because you are either stupid or you think I am stupid. Either way, it makes you a liability to me!
I am into 'Damage Prevention'. I do not like to live in pink clouds and I certainly do not deny the truth, weather it hurts or not!
So wake up, smell the coffee and for crying out loud... DRINK IT!
Drink the whole pot, while you are at it!
I confront people all the time...
I do it with a loving way, but only the first two times!
Until this day, no one has had any reasons to confront me based on being stupid or inconsiderate. I make sure to be accountable, considerate and straight up. It is not that difficult to do. It is called common sense.
You will always know what I do not like...
If you are smart enough, it will be easy to figure out what I do like based on what I do not like.
Does that make sense to you? (Common sense)
Is it not 'Logical' or must I spend countless hours explaining why I have a headache, from having to deal with the annoyance of your presence?
I do not ask for much. All I am asking for is that you do not exasperate me, until you get hurt by my words. That is correct...
Anyone that has ever gotten their ass chewed out by me, deserved it.
Keeping it real... The ones I chewed up were lucky to have gotten away with the mistakes they have made, that put me in jeopardy or in pain.
I do not take kindly to others that I see demonstrate such actions to their so called friends, family or relationships. It is wrong to continue making the same mistakes over and over again.
It is foolish and inconsiderate to take people, things and life for granted!
Remember, if you want to confront someone...
Do it with love and clear words as soon as you can.
Do not 'Nag', but do not 'Wait', set the record straight!
If they abandon you, great! That is one less irritation you will have to deal with. Why should you have to pay for their perpetual stupidity?
I can never fault anyone for stepping on my foot, if I did not tell them "Hey, you just stepped on my foot!" I also cannot fault them if I continue to put my foot under theirs...
Are you getting any of this, or would you like to confront me on what I just talked about?
This is not directed to anyone in particular, but
I am betting that many will ask themselves if they were an inspiration to my mind while writing this.
Just so we are all clear? If you had that question resonating in your ear, then the answer is "YES".
If you felt a sting, then you obviously were one of the many that felt it was alright to do what you had done.
Are you going to drink that coffee after all or stay asleep until one of us dies?
Peace To All!
Friday, August 10, 2012
What's your definition of 'Friendship'?
Mine cannot define it with one or two words but many, that some of you may or may not agree with.
The first thing that comes to mind when I think of 'Friendship' is respect.
Respect covers many areas for me in a friendship. It means absolute acceptance and no judging! It means consideration and thoughtfulness. It means being there to support a friend through thick and thin and helping no matter what they are going through. It means I don't always have to agree but I must always offer them an alternate view for them to choose, if they wish to. It means laughing with that person and crying with them when needed. It means honesty and sincerity with the correct set of words! Honesty doesn't give you a reason to use insensitive comments.
Those are just a few under the heading of 'Respect'.
The second thing that follows 'Respect' is 'Loyalty'.
Loyalty means truly being there, not just with nice words but with action! Too many chit chats and how are you doing questions, that mean nothing when one does not give a toot about what is really going on!
Loyalty to me, means a friend will never betray you nor abandon you for any reason no matter what.
Not for love; not for fame and certainly, not for money.
Loyalty earns trust and without trust, it's difficult to remain in the friendship!
It's really sad to say that in my life time, I have not experienced more than 2 friends that have reciprocated this in my so called 'Friendships'. I have many, who call themselves 'Friends' but they never have the same definition as I have, when it comes right down to it. My friends of 10-25 years have betrayed me over the silliest and smallest things under the 2 categories I just mentioned.
Perhaps, I just ask for too much, but do I really?
Is it too much to ask for what I can give and have given all my life?
I follow all my codes of conduct when it comes to Respect and Loyalty, even until today. No matter how many times I have been betrayed or abandoned, I don't tell my friends who hurt me "Game Over stupid!" but I do distance myself as their inconsideration and selfishness drive me away.
I have 2 friends that I laugh and cry with...
I may not see them all the time but when I do, we cannot hug each other enough and we literally throw gifts at each other because not a day goes by, that we do not wish each other the best things in life.
This particular Blog is dedicated to those 2 very special friends of mine and they know who they are! I will always take you with me as I climb higher in life. I love you and thank you for being you and loving me, the way you do.
Peace To All!